December 11th, 2010
Total Distance for today: 0 miles
Total Distance for Tour: approx. 553 miles
LOCATION: Raleigh, NC
STATUS: Holding down the Freedom Mobile (or bearing with it ;-))
There are a couple feelings that are extra frustrating to me:
1) Feeling like I’m not in control of my own destiny (Translation: I can’t get what I want)
2) Feeling like things never come together like they should (Translation: I can’t get what I want)
I’m going to go ahead and wager that these feelings frustrate you too, so I’ve decided to write a 3-post series about “Making your Move” and getting what you want.
At its base level, frustration really stems from an inability to get what we want. While part of growing and maturing is learning to let go, we benefit more from learning how to get what we want. The biggest benefit is not necessarily finally getting that job, finding our perfect mate, or succeeding in business. The biggest benefit to learning how to get what we want is in discovering that we “can.” “Can” leads to greater confidence, more options, and a better life. Can’t just leaves you closed, frustrated, angry, and unfulfilled. Some will tell you it is good to learn to accept what is, and there’s merit to they’re thinking, but only a little! Life can be as simple or complicated as you make it, but one simplicity I cling to is this: It is good to have options, be capable, and control your destiny.
Make your Move #1 of 3: Squash Passivity
Whether you seek more romance, greater business success, or more life opportunities, the most important first step is to actually define what you want. Most people allow society, people, and life to tell them what they “should” want. I expect more from you. But even if you’re among those who truly are awake and aware of what they want, you must recognize a hard truth: Life will rarely drop exactly what you want right on your doorstep. If you’re waiting for life to give you what you want, you’re never going to get it, but you may be fooled into thinking that you did! Passive people are not only passive in pursuing what they want; they’re also passive in defining what they want! Passivity is a downward spiral: The less you care about various areas of your life, the easier it will be to not care about any of it at all. That’s why so many people are just “surviving” or “getting by.”
A Jolt For you: There are many people who are less intelligent than you and who started out with less opportunities, and yet, they are more successful. Success isn’t primarily a matter of luck, circumstances, or aptitude. Success is a matter of will. Do you have a will to be more, experience more, and live more than your current trajectory is likely to allow? Great! Then do something about it: Seek knowledge, define what excites you, try new things, fail, learn, and try again. I’m not just talking about “working hard.” Often, “working hard” is just a way to avoid the emotional pain associated with clearly defining what you want and how YOU will get it and making the difficult decisions that will make it a reality.
Today’s lesson is simple: To live fully, you must define what you want and start taking action toward getting it. What the hell are you waiting for?